We all have our internal worlds, or as we would prefer to have it; our internal empires, but so often we don’t feel completely in control of ourselves. A lot of us have ownership issues with others.
Do you ever want to do something and then you think of someone and wonder what they will think? Maybe it’s someone important in your life like your parents, siblings, a really close friend, boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse, or even someone you just think highly of?
Do you wonder what ‘that someone’ (just add in the person in your life) will think or say about your choices and actions?Then you feel a bit out of sorts because there’s this other person who joined the equation of your decision-making in your head, and maybe you feel a bit less open or excited about your choice (hesitant even)?
‘Hmm, what will they think if I do that?’
Let me just ask you straight….
How many people are in your head?(CAN YOU HEAR YOURSELF OR HAVE YOU GOTTEN LOST IN THE CROWD?!)
We’ve given so many people access to our inner world – our minds and thoughts, our hearts and feelings.
We tend to open the door to our inner world to all these people in our lives and of course they come in without any hesitation, they get a free pass.
But, how do we reclaim our inner ‘land’ again?
Start by lovingly, or maybe a bit more ‘pushily’, showing.everyone.the.door.
‘Out with you, only I live in here, and I am the owner here!’
You are the only one who is in charge of your inner world – your thoughts and your feelings.
No-one else is. Period.
If you feel anyone else is, it is because you allowed them to take ownership.
The funny, or not-so-funny, part is that they don’t even know this.
They are probably just as lost in the crowd in their heads.
But why do we do this to ourselves? Maybe it comes from a place where we forget about ourselves? It happens.
We care about others, I mean we are all humans and part of our tribes. We just want to be loved and accepted; what others say is important to us.However!…what about our own love and acceptance, is that not important too?
By reclaiming our power, by saying no to the crowd in our heads and our hearts, we take a stand for ourselves, our values, needs, desires, choices, and actions.
We need to take our own side in order to truly be ourselves.
Usher everyone out, and create some space for yourself to make the decisions that are right for you.
There is a line when someone in our life is trying to take ownership of our choices compared to someone actually just giving us honest advice about our choices. We need to be discerning of the two.
Remember….you are the owner of the land, you have a say.
Take ownership of your internal empire.